London: I would imagine that many of us are unaware of our shadows and only encounter them through other people, in the form of projections.
Zweig: That’s right. By definition, the nature of the shadow is to hide. It hides outside the boundaries of awareness. Then it erupts spontaneously. It may erupt in an addiction, for example. But if it erupts in a projection, as you mentioned, you may have the experience of walking into a party, seeing a perfect stranger, and saying to yourself, “I can’t stand that woman! How could she behave that way?” That is your shadow speaking. There is a message there from a hidden part of yourself. There is information about your own psyche in that moment which, if you don’t begin to explore it, is like a letter that has been left unopened — you lose the message there. But if you begin to do shadow work and ask yourself, “What is it about that person I can’t stand, that is so unacceptable to me?” you will get the message.
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“I’ll tell you something banal.We’re emotional illiterates.And not only you and I-practically everybody,that’s the depressing thing.We’re taught everything about the body and about agriculture in Madagascar and about the square root of pi, or whatever the hell it’s called,but not a word about the soul.We’re abysmally ignorant,about both ourselves and others.There’s a lot of loose talk nowadays to the effect that children should be brought up to know all about brotherhood and understanding and coexistence and equality and everything else that’s all the rage just now.But it doesn’t dawn on anyone that we must first learn something about ourselves and our own feelings.Our own fear and loneliness and anger.We’re left without a chance,ignorant and remorseful among the ruins of our ambitions.To make a child aware of it’s soul is something almost indecent.You’re regarded as a dirty old man.How can you understand other people if you don’t know anything about yourself?Now you’re yawning,so that’s the end of the lecture.”
― Ingmar Bergman